Friday, May 4, 2012

Sick and Tired of Self Help Books Written for Women By Men

Steve Harvey has started an annoying, ugly, disturbing  trend. Ever since he wrote his original novel "Walk Like a Lady, Think Like a Man" men everywhere feel the need to write self help books to us women about what we need to do to search for a man, keep a man, help a man, and how to make our men stay with us. What's really sickening is that there are poor, weak, heart broken women everywhere, who want a man so bad that they are actually buying these books in bulk. If men were so smart, wouldn't they write books to their fellow man on how to treat a lady? No. Why? Because they know some women are very curious about the male species' mind and will go through great lengths to find out why Terrence won't propose to her, although they have been living together for six years. Although the answer is sitting right in front of her face, she would rather spend 19.99 or more on a book to read what she wants to hear, instead of facing what she know is the truth. Terrence will not propose to you, because you are already living, screwing, and taking care of him so he's thinking what the heck does he need a ring and a piece of paper for, when he is comfortable just the way things are.
 I have browsed Barnes & Nobles self improvement section and there are so many books for women by men on relationship advice that I literally laughed out loud. But this book by Ray-J and Max Billionaire or whatever his tired name is just took the cake. "Death of The Cheating Man:What Women Must Know About Men Who Stray" .  I skimmed the book and immediately thought about slipping it into the garbage can. Basically, these two airheads are telling women that all men are going to cheat regardless, and that we should just accept it. See, this is the reason why there are bitter, angry, women walking around snapping on any man that approaches them. This is also the reason why there are so many women stuck in relationships with cheating, no good men. Some women are beginning to turn into mindless sheep just following what these men say and reading these books like they're the gospel.
 It has even gotten sad on twitter. Lovesick women falling in love with tweets from self help authors who constantly write advice on how women feel. But here is my question. How the *beep* does a man know how women feel inwardly. Seriously, not to be funny but I don't know how it feels to be a man living in this world, so I'm not going to go around tweeting and writing up books on how to survive and live as a man living in America and beyond. Women, if you keep listening to these men and taking heed to what their books say, you will find yourself lonely and in debt.
 Steve Harvey is dead wrong for that nintey day probation theory. First of all, how in the world are going to tell the world you are a Christian, but tell women to give it up after ninety days. Mind you, he didn't even confirm whether or not the relationship would be official. He just said withold benefits for ninety days. So basically, Steve is saying that after ninety days, instead of us being in an official relationship I would have a friend with benefits? Not only that, but giving it up after ninety days does not gaurantee that you will have a man or a friend. You may wind up looking like Joan Clayton, confused, bitter, angry, nervous, sad and depressed. Then you will be on to the next one.
  Steve is about to have some women turn into ninety day whores. Every ninety days, a women sleeps with a new man. How sad. I think men are just writing these books because they know it is a good hustle. There are thousands of women are out here who are baffled as to why they can't keep or get a man, and are willing to go to the ends of the earth to find out. Including purchasing an overpriced book by some bozo who doesn't what a Gspot is let alone how to treat a woman. Can I kick it?

3 comments:

  1. Finding a good man has a huge number of factors. The first thing any woman should do? Ask around about him...other women won't lie, his friends won't know what the hell to say so by asking several of them, you'll get so many conflicting answers that you WILL be able to determine the truth (that, plus men will tell you some things they THINK are negatives but to women are positives....for instance, my husband's friends said he was "boring", always the designated driver and never really cut loose and partied. Umm, hello, to a woman that's like CHA-CHING! I found the grown-up one!) That's exactly my husband, too....he's not a partier, he's a stable man that likes being at home with his family.

    Also, once you find the truth out from his friends and other women, you have got to allow the relationship to unfold naturally. Stop reading guide books...you are not on a tour of Europe, you are handing someone your heart! There's no guide book for that. Rule number one: TRUST YOUR GUT! If you feel uncomfortable with him, if you think something's going on, 99.99999% of the time, you're right. Once you find out you're right, leave. Cut it. DEMAND high standards for yourself and don't compromise.

    Rule number two: be realistic and realize men are going to make mistakes. My husband's a great handyman, like to fix stuff around the house, has no problem running errands for me, going to the store, etc., but that man is a slob. You gotta take the good with the bad. While I get frustrated that I have to clean up after him, I also know I can knock two things out at one time by writing a shopping list and he can go to the store for me....or he will pick the kids up and take them to their practice while I clean. So it all still gets done, you see? It's not like he does NOTHING, you just have to figure out what he LIKES doing and what he'll do without complaint and roll with it. It's all about compromise in a long-term relationship. Men are NOT perfect and guess what? Neither are women. Men are going to glance at other women, but you know what? My man has caught me gazing at the shirtless jogger running by our car, also. People are going to look at attractive people. If they touch, then it's on to rule three:

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  2. Never, ever accept infidelity in your marriage (or relationship). Have a very firm, very clear conversation about the point at which you are monogamous. From that day forth, you don't accept that bullshit. I found out my husband was on the verge of having an affair two years ago....I packed the kids up, called a real estate agent, and moved out before the end of the week. And that was when he was on the VERGE of an affair, not even started. It was a huge betrayal and breach of trust. We lived in separate homes for one year, and we moved back in together this past August. He has gone above and beyond to earn my trust...he gave me the password to all his Facebook, emails, etc., he has weeded out friends of his who encouraged him to cheat, and he has proven himself time and time again to be faithful and dedicated to our marriage. Would he have done all this if I had never moved out and stayed with him? HELL NO. Because he would take my staying as an unspoken acceptance of his behavior, and I did NOT accept that behavior for myself. He took it as a serious wake-up call and chose his wife and children over a quick piece of ass.

    Women, stay true to yourself. Men like women with their own interests, friends, and lives. Keep your social life intact! Don't drop everything for your man...keep doing you, and he will admire and follow you! But most of all, let it be real...if you all have a passionate moment one month in or if you do wait for the altar, own your decisions, own them in the context of a stable, trusting, respectful relationship and roll with it! Life is too damn short to be trying to choreograph a relationship like a complicated game plan...go with it, enjoy the spontaneous moments of pure joy, and also realize you must accept the moments of brutal pain, but people who stick together through both of those will have a long and beautiful relationship.

    At least, this is my two cents :)

    Oh, and never read a relationship book by a man....ever.

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  3. Thank you for your comments!! I enjoyed your two cents, we need more cents from you!! =)

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