Jack and Jill Org of America: As If We Are Not Already Divided

You learn something new everyday. A news blog reported that there is a reality tv series in the works based on Jack and Jill families. I thought Jack and Jill families were families with two children consisting of a boy and a girl. *Insert laugh here*. Nope. Jack and Jill families are families that are part of the Jack and Jill of America organization. It's a very elite organization where you have to have multiple degrees, be part of the 1% and you must be African American. Basically, you have to rich, black and highly educated. You don't just apply to join and pay a membership fee, somebody has to invite you or refer you. I did my little bit of research to see if I could apply online for kicks. There is not even a link to apply on the site. This is a very private organization. The nearest chapter in my state is in Prince William County, Virginia. The board members are women who look like black Step-ford wives. The comments under the blog link headlining about the potential reality series had several J&J members upset and posting links to several Change.org petitions to stop the reality series. I can't say I blame them because reality TV programs destroy brands and place well liked celebrities in a negative light. However, it went from asking people to sign the petition to insulting blacks that are in lower-middle class or below. It turned into an all out war between Hood vs. Bougie. Calling names such as "oreo", "hoodrat" etc. You get my drift.
  Do we really need this J&J organization headlining the news right now or becoming popular? I mean we are already divided enough with the light skin vs dark skin shenanigans. So now we are throwing economic class in the mix? With all the hatred and violence towards black people in America, we should be more focused on coming together and not looking for more excuses to break apart. At the end of the day, no matter how many degrees we have, no matter how much we make or how many organizations we are part of, we are all still black and still at risk of getting shot down in the street just for being black. Another distraction if you ask me. Another distraction to tear the black community apart. The organization was founded in 1938 and I have never heard of it in the media until now. This is nothing but division. It's bad enough black people who are mixed race or extremely light skinned think that racism don't apply to them and now the media tosses this in the mix. A recipe for more disaster in the black community. I always promote black businesses and organizations no matter how big or small so here is the website to find out more info: jackandjillinc.org

"What's Understood Don't Need to be Explained" An Excuse to Avoid Commitment

The phrase is being used in memes on the internet, on social media statuses, during arguments, and  in text messages. It has women thinking they are something special to their mate when in all actuality it is just an excuse a commit phobic man put into a woman's head to keep her silent from asking him to commit. "What's understood don't need to be explained" is the sorriest statement I have ever heard that describes a relationship or lack there of. It is even sorrier that woman are actually accepting this as a relationship status. "He loves me, he knows where home is, so he can go out and do him" is basically what women are agreeing to. But ladies need to understand that it does need to be explained. We need a clear and concise understanding on where we stand with a man so our time is not wasted. While you're waiting, being loyal and giving a man husband benefits that is not even your boyfriend, you are blocking the blessing God has for you in the form of the man you deserve. Allowing him to make you look like a clown in his circus while the woman that he really wants is unavailable to him at the time. You're allowing him to treat you like a option, like something to do to occupy his time. Aren't you time of being hidden from view? Think about it. Using memes of reality tv show characters that broadcast their toxic relationships to describe the relationship you have with a man makes you look like a damn fool. Wake up, ladies and look in the mirror. Do you really think you deserve such treatment?