When Parents Abandon You, God Will Take Care of You.

My parents have never really been there for me, at all. Other family members have been picking up their slack for years. Truthfully, my parents refused to take care of their responsibility. When my mother had no choice but to take care of me she abused me viciously, letting me know daily how she didn't want me, couldn't stand me, and wished I was taken away from her. Well when she became hooked on drugs and in and out of jail, despite all of the abuse I endured with her, despite all the money she stole from me, despite the fact that she sold my newborn full blooded red pitt bull for five bucks, I still stood by her.
  I visited her in jail, I put money on her books, I was the only one who was writing her in jail, let alone visiting her. I gave her encouragment, I forgave her for the past, and I was ready to move on and start a new relationship with her. I told myself the past is the past and she's a better person.
  Well when she became clean and a ministry took her in, she started doing ministeral training. When she started doing that, she became not only emotionally abusive but verbally abusive towards me as well. I mean lying on me to people at her church to get things she wanted, telling people I was on DRUGS to make herself look good and get things she wanted. She would yell and berate me in public and still I forgave her because kept I thinking of that rule in the bible. "Honor your mother and father" Eph. 6:2 (NLT). So because of that scripture alone I kept taking abuse off of her.
  However, there is always that one straw that breaks the camel's back. That one situation that happens that causes you to step back and say, No that is enough. According to Eph. 6:4 "Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, by the way you treat them" (NLT). Parents are not to bully, abuse, or mistreat their children, pushing them to break the above rule.
  You'll know the situation I'm in, about me having to move really soon. My mother was blessed with a three bedroom house of her own, so I humbly came to her and asked her if I could just rest at her home at night. You know, somewhere to just rest my head at during the night. Well, after berating me for an half of an hour she told me I had too much baggage to live in her house. I was so shocked at what she said to me, I calmly said "I certainly do apologize, you don't have to ever worry about me again". And she hung up in my ear. I haven't heard from her since.
  Christ does not want us to be foolish and allow people to abuse and misuse us. We are to honor our mothers and fathers, but some of us may have to love them from a distance. You are NOT to disrespect them, call them names, write them off as your parents, put them in a nursing home and leave them there to die. No. That does not honor God, it makes you look horrible, and it does NOT make it right.
  I know exactly how you feel. Why is it that Mom and Dad gets away with treating me like a garbage pail kid? Who said they were getting away with it? We have to let God fight our battles for us. Having vengeance in our hearts combined with hurt and pain can destroy us. We must learn to forgive those that do us wrong. "If you forgive those who sin against you, your heavenly father will forgive you" 6:14 (NLT). This goes for not just your parents but for anyone who does you wrong.
  I'm going to be honest with you guys and say that I have signed up for spiritual counseling with my pastor. Because I have a lot of anger building up towards my mother. Everyday, I have to restrain from calling and texting her, telling her how she's a poor excuse for a mother. That's not of God, at all. There is nothing wrong with seeking counseling. To be honest, I should have gotten spiritual counseling a lonnnnnng time ago.
  Getting counseling does not mean you're crazy or out of control. It means that you have decided to let things go. To work towards accepting the things you can't change. My heart really goes out to the men who have absentee fathers. We have to be prepared to accept that our mothers and\or fathers may not love us the way we need and want to be loved. However, God is a healer. God gives us what we need in our lives. That is why we have spiritual sisters, mothers, fathers, parents.
  The Lord knows our desires, He knows that those without parents or good parents desire this. So this is why God places parental and sibling figures in our lives, to fill that void. Isn't God grand?
But please remember, the cycle stops with you. You know how it feels to be treated horribly by a parent. So break the cycle by the way you treat your children. Love ya!