My Open Letter to the Women of "Married to Medicine"

Dear Cast of Married to Medicine,

I did not know who you women were or what your show was about until I researched it and watched several episodes after hearing numerous complaints from viewers. Frankly, I am appalled and I think it is a really good thing that someone took the initiative to create a petition to take this disgrace off of television.
  To the women who are married to doctors, if I was your husbands I would take you right to court and divorce you, no matter what the cost is. How dare you put your husbands' reputation, future, and career at stake by acting the way you do on national tv. How dare you? You flaunt around in your designer purses, your name brand shoes, and your high priced weaves and brag about the fact that you are a "doctor's wife".  Its sad that you have no identity and you only want to be known as the "ratchet doctor's wife" that have absolutely no class and is an embarassment to not only your husband and his colleagues, but to your childen and women all across the world that are married to doctors.
  The fact of the matter is you have too much damn time on your hands. If you are already a wife and mother then you really don't have time to be on tv fighting and disrespecting yourself. But then again you are a bored housewife and any skills you have, if any are not being put to good use. So here is my advice to you, get a skill, a career, a job or do something productive besides melting down the strip on your husband's platinum American Express card at shopping malls.
  Now to the women that are doctors on this show. There is no way in hell you are a successful doctor if you have time to act an ass on a reality tv show.  Maybe you have a private practice that is not doing so great, thats why you have so much time. However, do you know how hard it is for women, especially black women to be taken seriously in the medical field, let alone any damn profession? Do you know how hard it is for women as a whole to be taken seriously in graduate school, medical school, business school? Maybe you forgot how hard it was for you to be trusted with a patient when you started doing your clinicals or internship. Thanks a lot for setting the next generation of women who go into medicine back a thousand yards.
  Its obvious that you have no regard for your profession as a doctor or your reputation for you to even grace this show with your presence.  Thanks a lot to all of you for making black women look bad as a damn whole knowing how hard it is out here for us to become successful.
  Newsflash!! Bravo and Vh1 and all the rest of these networks out here that broadcast these reality tv shows don't give a fuck about you, me, minorities, or viewers. They only give a fuck about two things: Ratings and money. You give them ratings no matter what the costs and they give you a portion of the money you make them. You don't have to be in the sex industry to be a pimp. And you ladies, are being pimped.

   Sincerely,

Tanisha M. Monroe

Letter to my Unborn Child

To my beautiful baby,

You don't exist yet and I don't know if you are a boy or a girl...I don't even know who your father will be, where I will meet him, or when. I don't know how many  years will go by until I conceive  and push you into this world. But I do know for a fact that it will happen someday. I think about you all the time. I think about you as I am sitting in the book store reading a Glamour magazine and I happen to look up and see a mother feeding her newborn. I think about you when I walk by women with round, swollen bellies, glowing with anticipation. Some call it "baby fever" I call it loving you ahead of time, so when you get here you will already be covered in love.
  I believe babies should not be made out of carelessness or selfishness, as a pawn or as a trap. Babies should only be made out of lots of love, which is why two people should only make love to create life. I promise you will be made out of good loving from two people that love you very much.
  This is a very cruel world we live in and I know I can't shelter you from it but I do promise to always have your back no matter what. Life is so mysterious and it is so unpredictable the way an event can just occur out of nowhere. I just know I don't want you to hurt like I have been hurt, to struggle like I have struggled and to experience pain.
   I can't shelter you from experiencing pain but I can help you with struggle and I comfort you when you are hurt. I will never abandon you as long as I walk this earth but I will teach you to swim in shark infested waters and to survive. I will teach you how to weed out the good from the bad, how to outsmart the gamblers that play with life as if it is board game and to never lose faith or your spirituality. Spirtuality and faith is what gets you through dark days and the darkest of nights. This is my promise to you. I love you.

Future Mommy..

Things to do on Valentine's Day When You're Bored

I don't care about Valentine's Day...I don't celebrate it nor do I dwell on it. Granted, I give hugs and kisses to people I love and care about. I'll buy myself a bottle of wine and take myself out to dinner and buy myself a heart shaped container of assorted chocolates. But Valentine's Day really means nothing to me. But I know there are people out here that will absolutely think about committing suicide, if they have nothing to do on Valentine's Day. So I decided to provide a list of things to do on Valentine's Day when you're bored. Whether you are single or not. Thank me later.

1. Nicholas Sparks novel based movie "Safe Haven" is coming out on VDay. If you have seen one Nicholas Sparks movie, you've seen them all. Beautiful Creatures is coming out, its like Twilight minus the glitter and fangs. A Good Day to Die Hard is coming out.. I would rather see this than the others.

2. Go to Barnes&Nobles and read a book in the Sexuality section. I do this all the time and it is so funny what they have in those books. Like the Kama Sutra, how to get an orgasm. You would probably also find yourself reading the self-help section and analyzing yourself.

3. Grab a friend, go to the bar and take shots all night. While you're shooting whiskey, patron or whatever else, bash your exes to each other. You'll feel liberated, free and so much better. Turn your phone off to not send drunk texts and DO NOT DRIVE DRUNK.

4. Go shopping...If you're broke...Go window shopping. You would be so depressed over what you can't afford to buy, that you will forget all about Valentine's Day. :D

5. Write a love letter to your crush and send it. Anybody who has ever had a crush has stalked them. Put the love letter at his/her desk, mail box, car hood...It can be anonymous or if you're bored put your name.

6. Flirt with some random person on a social network that is in your area and meet up with him in a public place. You're only doing this because you're bored so if he cat fishes you, who cares? If he's ugly who cares? Its a free meal and bring some cash just in case he's broke. You can pay for your own and leave him there.

7. Leave trolling comments on all the instagram, facebook and twitter pics people are going to post of them and their "bae" on Valentine's Day. Pop some popcorn, pour a drink, and get your troll on.

Have Fun!!!

My BEEF with Natural Hair Care Entrepreneurs

So for the past three years women with natural hair have been starting their own business mixing good products to bring curl, growth and healthiness to women transitioning from relaxed hair to natural. And that is all well and fine because I support small businesses and anyone out here trying to bring positivity to the black community. But how in the hell do you expect us women with natural hair to pay for this priced mess? Its a recession out here and I know you'll know this. You probably lost your jobs when the economy went in the toilet, you started your own business by selling your own concotions of scented shea butters and hair puddings. So why would you charge 25.00 for a 4oz bottle of shampoo? Why would you charge 38.00 bucks for a 8oz container of Curly Pudding? What is in this stuff? Extract from Jack's magic beans?

Brand name products are much cheaper than the small business products. In order for me to stick to a hair care regime using products from small natural hair businesses, I would have to work over time and get another job.  I feel as though these people are taking advantage of the natural hair community mindset. The big fad is bringing the curl pattern out of natural hair kinks. So women with natural hair are buying all these products to get their hair to a texture where its not. Well I have news for you,you might as well get a texturizer because if you dont have a fine, curly texture then you will just continue to waste your money being a "product junkie". Just going bankrupt to get your hair what its not. Embrace and accept your hair for what it is.
  Natural hair people that are promoting these "Curly" products that are expensive as all hell should be ashamed of yourselves. You can use an all natural, inexpensive product and do a twist out just the same. *flips fro*

I Think Ellen Degeneres is My Gay Aunt

I really love Ellen Degeneres and I really think she is my gay aunt in my head. We are both goofy, sarcastic, sweet hearts and I really think we are related. I know what you are thinking...I'm black (I think) and she is white (I think) but we are so much alike and we have so much in common. Well, you'll know that one thing we don't have in common. So anyway I am going on ancestry.com to see if we're related. Ok? Now I gotta go because I have homework. Bye!

My Apology to Megan Good

Early last year when Megan Good announced her engagement and her and her fiance's mutual decision to stay abstinent until their wedding night, still pics of her in a sexual position with another man that was not her fiance surfaced the net. The pictures were from a sex tape that was leaked years ago way before she met her husband. People were reposting and retweeting them everywhere and of course I was one of the people that retweeted it. Megan began explaining the situation and told people that they didnt understand how people can change. She began explaining to people how being abstinent changed her life but people were still cracking jokes and bringing up her past. I didnt realize how hurt her feelings must have been until it happend to me. People bring up the dirt you did in your past and don't even try to get to know the new person you've become.
   Of course her husband knows about her past but as a man of God he doesn't look back at the past, he looks towards the future and the woman she is now. None of us are perfect creatures and all of us fall short. Which is why nobody should be judging anybody at all. So I decided to apologize to her. I am apologizing, not for tweeting anything disrespectful, but scratch that. I did tweet something disrespectful..I retweeted that awful pic of her that some no life dug up and plastered all over the blogs just to TRY to ruin her happiness. I conformed to the ignorance of what was going on around me because I thought it was funny at the time. But it isn't funny. I can't believe I had the audacity to laugh at someone else being put on blast for something that happend years ago when I have experienced people doing it to me. Misery loves company and I am not a miserable person, so why would I conform to such foolishness?

  I noticed her and her husband on the cover of Ebony Magazine. The February issue were honoring black celebrity couples that have either beat the odds or stood out. On the cover of the magazine, they looked genuinely in love. She expressed how she knew he was her soul mate although they were friends for six years. She has what every woman in their right man wants. I am so happy for her and I am so happy that she has found love. I hope she reads this, accepts my apology and forgive me.

Date Tonight, My Incomplete Short Story, Avoiding the Flu

I have a date tonight...I don't know what to wear and I am not really excited. The guy is twelve years older than me but looks like he is in his twenties. I met him when six o clock in the morning dashing for the shuttle to get to work. We cracked a few jokes on the train, made conversation and then exchanged numbers. He told me we could do whatever and he just didnt like night clubs. Thats fine with me because I've been over the club scene. I explained that I had a long work week and dinner and drinks would be just fine. So now I'm sitting at work trying to figure out what the heck to wear tonight. I thought about wearing a cute black dress but it is freezing and raining outside so I think I'm going to wear a cute, sexy pantsuit. Of course, I know the rules of a first date and the number one rule is to always carry enough cash to at least get a way home. So anyway, my date is at 9:15pm and I am letting you all know this just in case he kidnaps me. But then again you know he gon' bring my ass back.
  Anyway, my readers are cursing me out right now because I started a short story blog and part I of the story was so good, that readers were dying for more. So then I did part II and never finished Part III. Sorry!!! Please forgive me!!! Between work, school, and other things in life that get in my way I have had no time at all to complete the stories. On top of that, I have an incomplete novel on my hands and an artist I'm managing. *Deep breath*. Then the nurse at my doctor's office lost my prescription so I have been off my meds for four days...Chile...But anyway, I count it all joy. But the short story and the novel I am currently writing will be complete in no time! I promise!!
  Along with trying to get projects done I have been trying to avoid the flu, which infecting everybody like a damn plague. The CDC are involved and 50 people have died already babies included. So I went to the natural foods store and purchased some black walnut tincture. Black Walnut kills, parasites, fungus and bacteria and is really good for intestinal health. However, the side effects are horrible. I experienced extreme stomach cramping, nausea and constipation. It got so bad I had to google side effects and talk to someone on a forum. The person on the forum reassured me that the side effects were normal. So then I started popping echinacea pills like candy, which are herb capsules that boost your immune system and I'm sipping herbal tea.

  So this is what the beginning of my new year has been like. By the way, go to www.PersuadeMagazine.com...Thanks

You Don't Know About the Spirit of Judas Iscariot??

"The evening meal was in progress, and the devil had already prompted Judas, the son of Simon Iscariot, to betray Jesus" John 13:2.
  Many people who have experienced a friend betray them in the worst way possible, often ask themselves why. Why would their very best friend steal from them, lie on or to them, sleep with their significan other? We often scratch our heads and question ourselves about what we could have done to prevent the betrayal or how could we be so blind. After being betrayed by family members and so called friends I often wondered if I had the mark of "Stupid" or "Gullible" stamped on my forehead.
  If Jesus Christ was betrayed by one of his own disciples for monetary gain why do you think the same wouldnt't happen to you? Greed, jealousy, and coveting are Satan's way of tearing relationships apart. The spirit of Judas Iscariot is still roaming around earth inhabiting the bodies of loved ones tearing families apart.
  Whether your best home girl slept with your husband or your best brother from another mother set you up to be robbed because he wanted a piece of the lavish life you were living, it all comes from the same demonic spirit. When the truth comes to light so many of us are ready to put revenge in motion, however we feel guilty once revenge has taken place. Why?
 I've asked myself this question plenty of times. Why do we feel convicted when we pay back what was given to us? Why must we forgive? I had to thoroughly research the point of forgiveness and does it give people a pass to hurt us again.
 That is what my next blog topic is about tomorrow.

How to Not Give A F*&k

So this Christmas 2012 that just passed I came in talk with family members I don't like or don't want to be around. I didn't know they were going to be there and if I knew I would not have shown up. So when they stepped in the house at first I felt anxiety and anger raise up out of me. I was angry because first, the person didn't tell me they were coming and second, they had the audacity to bring their ass over when they have never came over any other time. Third, I was kicking myself because something told me not to come over there to began with. Always listen to your gut feeling; its God's way of talking to you.
  Anyway, long story short I grabbed my purse, called a ride and left. Before I left one of the family members stopped me and gave me a card. She tried to hug me but I stopped and swerved her.I'm in the process of healing and I really don't want her anywhere near me. The only reason why I accepted the card is because her child signed it too. I love him, he is my fave family member. Anyway, my point is you don't have to be around anybody you don't want to be around. You also don't have to make a scene either, you can just get up and leave plain and simple.
   Its called throwing shade the classy way. Nobody looks more stupid or more offended then someone that knows you don't like them and watch you just get up from being around them.
  The same thing goes when running into an ex boyfriend or friend that hurt you and they feel like dirt behind it. If they stop you and speak you can either ignore them as if you don't see them which makes them look dumb or simply just give a tight smile and keep it moving.
  Nobody is putting up with bull s&%t in 2013. Everybody is declaring this everywhere so I think 2012 was the year of "People Doing the Most". I mean literally nobody in 2013 is putting up with anybody's crap. Not only are people just cutting people off from their circle but some people are killing people literally. I think 2013 is the year of "0 fu$%s". But we want to not give a f$%k the right way.
  Instead of killing or hurting someone that is not worth you going to prison. Simply just cut the person off. If you are in a relationship with this person just leave. So many people feel trapped in relationships with jealous girlfriends, lazy boyfriends just because they have kids with them or they have been with them for so long. Who cares? This is your life you have to live and you deserve to be happy.
  Use this year to not give a fu$%. After all the bull crap I went through in 2012, I sure as hell don't.
 

My Psychological Theory on Internet Trolls

Twitter and facebook can be fun to crack jokes and quips on celebrities, make smart ass comments in response to blog links, debate with others on why your favorite singer/songwriter should win a Grammy. I think it is perfectly okay to voice your opinion and wise cracks when someone posts something stupid. But it is all fun and games until a troll crawls in front of a fake picture and pull what I like to call "Attention Stunts". First lets take a refresher course on what trolls and internet trolls are.

 Trolls- Supernatural being in Norse mythology. It is said that they dwell in isolated areas away from normal people. For example, mountains, caves and under bridges. They are rarely described as helpful or friendly and in fact are very mean. They are slow, dim witted, and stupid. Late at night they crawl from out of their homes and steal farm animals, break property, and harass human beings. They are insanely afraid of light and when light is flashed upon them they run away frightend.

Internet Trolls- Beings who posts inflammatory, insulting, extraneous, or off topic messages in online communities, such as forums, blogs, chat rooms, with the primary intent of provoking readers into an emotional response. It is to disrupt normal on topic discussions. Unlike trolls in folklore, internet trolls don't hide under bridges and caves, they hide behind fake avatars found on google images.

 Just like trolls in mythology, when brought to the light or exposed for who they are internet trolls run and hide. Most internet trolls are depressed, angry, or lonely people who are getting either bullied behind the screen or feel as though they are not a factor of importance in their normal lives. Most of them have extremely low self esteem which is why they post fake avatars on their profiles of either models wearing little to no clothing trying giving others in cyber space the impression that it is actually them in the picture. Some of them post avatars of celebrities or comedic, funny pictures to keep the curiosity of who they are at bay from their followers.
  Many internet trolls bully others constantly to keep the attention off of trauma that is going on in their personal lives.
  The best way to deal with internet trolls is to simply block or ban them from your blog, forum, or social network accounts. They are very unhappy people who are in dire need of attention, love, and mental help. I actually feel sorry for them however there was a time when I did feed into it and go to all out war with them. Just like a mythical troll the more you feed them the more they keep coming back. Responding and showing any kind of emotional response to their mischief will only cause them to continue to wreak havoc.
  There are internet trolls for each category of people:

Celebrity Trolls- These are internet trolls that constantly attack a particular celebrity or celebrities for no reason at all. The only reason why these trolls attack celebrities is basically because they don't like their music. So they tag them in tweets, forums and blogs all day and all night long. (Lil' Kim and Beyonce stans are very known for doing this).

Bully Trolls- These are trolls that lurk social networks day and night perusing accounts to just nit pick and make fun of people. Either the person in the avatar they are attacking is overweight, wears his/her hair a certain way or just posted their opinion. They nit pick day and night on this particular person and get their mindless sheep to do it too.

Night Trolls- These are trolls that come out on social networking sites late at night during off peak hours. They find random people to harass, stalk, and insult up until the wee hours of the morning. When the person check their account the next day, they are confused to see hundreds of people with fake avatars in their mentions hurling insults at them for no reason at all.

Photograph Trolls- Photograph trolls are trolls who have a fake avatars on their profile but love to steal people with real avatars and use photoshop to enhance their photos. They particularly like to enhance their features and then they post them all over the social networking account to get laughs. This can be very irritating because who would want their pictures being slung all over the net?

   I hope my psychological theory and case study of Internet Trolls help you'll. You can never get rid of internet trolls. Unfortunately, like HIV/AIDS there is no cure for them. The best vaccine of prevention is to ignore them, don't give a response and just simply block them as soon as you see that they are commenting ridiculous insults.
  I hope this helps! =)